Eight months ago, I ruined everything. Is it too late?

I’m going to try to make these as short as possible without leaving out anything important. Okay, I had this best friend. He liked me since we first met, but I didn’t feel the same way until two years later. We had a perfect relationship, I was completely in love with him. However, his ex girlfriend began stalking us (I KNOW, who does that?) and I started feeling insecure. I got really paranoid, and as a result, kind of mean. It was so wrong because I knew it wasn’t his fault that his ex was so ridiculous, but I still had resentment to him. We broke up after being together for a year. I broke up with him out of anger and instantly regretted it. It was such a mess.

That was back in February. Since then, he started dating this completely AWFUL girl. She’s rude, his family can’t stand her (I’m still really close with his older sister), and she’s horrible to him. They’ve broken up at least six times, and she’s cheated on him with random other guys. Just from being his friend, it hurts to see him with her. But the fact that I’m still in love with him makes it so much worse, especially since I’ve definitely learned my lesson now. I’ve changed so much in the last eight months.

He’s called me every couple of weeks since we broke up. When he found out that girl cheated on him, he called me. Here’s why I’m so confused. His sister, who is more loyal to him than me and hardly ever tells me anything, told me that he admitted to her that he’s still in love with me and talks to her every night about me. Sure enough, a few days later, he began calling me every night and talking to me about how much he misses the old days. We went out on a few dates, and he and that girl are currently “off”, but they still hangout! He told me he doesn’t want to get serious with anyone right now and I know in my heart it’s because he’s worried that I will get all insecure again (especially now that I have THIS ex to worry about), and we’ll be miserable.

How can I prove to him I changed while he’s still hanging out with this other girl, and of course, without looking desperate? I want to show him that I’m confident and that I have my own life, even though I really miss him in it. Any how-to-get-your-ex-back advice when you’re the one who screwed it up?

Wow, I think this is the first post I haven’t had to edit. I have to thank you for taking the time to check your spelling. You have no idea how helpful it is.

Anyways, to start of I almost thought you were my ex, a lot of these sounds like how my relationship was. If he called you after his other ex cheated on him than obviously he is still at least a little bit attracted and interested in you.

Best advice you can do is sit down and explain things to him. If you want any chance to get him back after you blew things you need to suck up your pride and just talk to him. Explain to him why you got worried and try and convince him that you regret how you acted and that you would do anything to reverse it if you could.

Tell him that your still in love with him and that you want to be with him again. If you sound desperate that’s fine. If you get him back it’s defiantly worth it or so I would think from the sounds of how you say you feel about him.

Obviously a key note is how he misses the old times, remind him of how much fun you guys had as couple and try and convince him that things will be like again just with out all of your paranoia.

I really think once you explain your self he will consider getting back together and if he’s still not ready for a serious relationship wait for him it sounds like you think he’s worth it.