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How to nicely shut him down…
Whenever I go to this guys house Jake he is always trying to do stuff I always say no and move his hands or him in general but he never stops and my best friend likes him but I cant get him to listen to me and stop putting his hands on me. I don’t have a problem saying no to him because IV known him for so long but I do for other guys unless it goes past kissing
I always feel bad saying no but I do respect myself and won’t do anything too physical with someone I don’t want to
My two questions are
How do I get Jake to stop because I am his friend but I don’t want to be anymore then that and I don’t know what to do to actually make him listen? Iv tried everything by telling him no, stop, it won’t ever happen because I don’t like him like that, and moving but he always starts it again
And I hate saying no so how do I do it so I don’t make myself feel like a bitch (because I always do when I let someone down) and still being friends with the person
Being firm with Jake is really the only way you’ll get him to stop. You may need to sit down with him and explain things out. Saying that your sorry but your just not interested in him but if you do become interested you will let him know. But also work your friend liking him into it if you must, saying something like I can’t do that to so and so. I’d be a terrible friend. But be firm and decisive when you speak.
The other thing is you shouldn’t feel like a bitch at all. It’s your own body and it’s best that you respect your body and your personal wishes. Most girls and guys let those slide, it takes more effort to keep them than to loose them to say the least so good job on holding up against it. You aren’t a bitch for being selective and protective of yourself. So really you should try o change your mind set about it.
How old is a pedo? How young can a pedo be?
27 year old going for a 17 year old?
He’s married and has a kid.
We’ve known each other for like 4 months? Friends at first. Then we flirted. Then we cuddled. Now he wants to be FTF (friends that fuck). I said no. He then said FWB (friends with benefits). I said no again. He then apologized and said he didn’t want to lose me and that we can be just friends…and that I was a really good friend and he loved my company. He’s so sweet. He has visited me at work (twice) just to see me for like 10 minutes (round trip being one hour with no traffic).
Normally guys would give up after they can’t bang the chick….happened countless times to me. But why is he still here? Does he genuinely like me?
I honestly just want your open minded opinions on the matter. Forget the father and married thing if you could. I’m not trying to ruin their marriage. I’m just trying to be the “escape” in his life.
Edit: I’d just like to add that’s it’s not illegal. The age of consent is 16 over here. Plus, I’m not even banging him, lmao.
Normally I see you writing the advice so it’s nice to see even you need advice now and than.
To be honest it sounds like your trying to convince yourself that it’s not a big deal to be his as you said “escape”. You want him to fix his marriage so you said, but if he’s cheating driving hours away to just see you how do you expect that to help their marriage?
Guys normally give up on a “chick” if they can’t sleep with her easily but I have meet guys that were smart enough and were willing to wait. So he may be stuck on you and can’t move on, who knows.
From the sounds of things you don’t want to hurt anyone. Yet you don’t want to be just friends with him. You are really contradicting yourself. Best advice I can give you is to put yourself in his wifes shoes. If your husband was cheating (regardless if it’s just kissing it’s cheating.) on you what would you do?
It’s your choice to make but you need to realize that your choice will not only effect yourself, this guy as well as his wife and his son.
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