My friend: should I talk to him?

So yesterday, I was browsing profiles on here to look for people to publicly humiliate, when I came across no one other than one of my best friends. As I was talking to him on AIM at the time, I said something to the effects of “haha you’re on teenspot. Don’t do it! It’s a waste of time.” At which point he promptly stopped talking, and closed his profile. However, I assumed that it was because he had a picture posted of him in his underwear.

Today, out of curiosity’s sake, I searched the username he used on google, and it came up with hits for two other websites: both for gay teens. I looked at the profile with his name on there, and it is without a doubt him. There were no pictures, but it is definitely obvious that it’s him. A few years ago, everyone thought he was gay (including me) and I even asked him, and he said no. Since then, though, it seemed like he wasn’t. Apparently he is.

So here’s my question–should I talk to him about it? Tell him that I know? His sexual preferences have no impact on how I feel about him; he’s one of my best friends and that’s not going to change based on what he’s attracted to. I’m just worried that he’ll feel uncomfortable around me since he suspects I found out (which I’m sure is why he closed his TS profile–he thought I saw his sexual orientation on there, which I didn’t, and closed it just in case I didn’t).

I just don’t know if I should mention it to him. Obviously not in school, but in private. I don’t want him to feel awkward around me, or worry that I may have found out. So, my fellow teenspotians, what should I do? I’d sort of like to talk to him, reassure him that I will tell no one if he does not want me to, and that it seriously doesn’t matter and I’m his friend. On the other hand, I don’t want to talk about it with him if it’ll make him uncomfortable.

This is an interesting case, you really never know if he is gay and I am pretty sure you don’t want to upset him. It’s interesting how he reacted to you bringing it up, even odder that once your brought it up the account was closed.

It’d be a lot easier to give advice if you did look at his sexual preferences on teen spot. But since you didn’t it’s a bit hard to be 100% sure the other accounts are truly his.

Now the fact you believe he pedantically was gay says a lot. Best advice I can give is to sit down with your friend and tell him that you didn’t mean to make him upset by your comments. Than bring up the fact you searched his username and sexual status came up.

From the sounds of it you don’t care if he’s gay or not. Which is a good thing just sit him down and ask him straight up and make sure he knows your just wanting him to be honest and that you’re willing to support his choices and let him know if he needs to talk your there for him.

This is just a prime example though, if you’re going to dig around into others lives than be prepared to find details you may not be fully ready to handle. Some days it’s best just to keep to your own life.