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Boyfriends Mom Died, I need help!
Two years ago, my boyfriends mom was killed in a motorbike accident, and its still affecting him. He never dealt with his grief at the time; he just goes all quiet and didn’t talk to anyone about it, not even his dad. Recently, he’s been getting really down about it, and I don’t know what to do. He thinks he’s forgetting about his mom, cos he’s forgetting the memories that he had with her, and that really upsets him. Also this year, my boyfriend is coming to spend Christmas with me, my mom, stepdad etc, and I know he hates Christmas because he obviously cant spend it with him mom, so I dont know how he’ll be on the day. I just want him to open up to me, because although we have a very open relationship and we tell each other everything otherwise, when it comes to his mom, he’s like a closed book.
Should I try and get him to talk to me, so he can (gosh, this will sound so lame) carry on with the grieving process? Or should I just leave him be, and let him deal with it on his own, and promise him that I’m always going to be there if he needs to talk?
As you have seen first hand losing a family member especially ones mother can be very difficult for someone to come to terms with. To be honest i think you should help him preserve memories of his mom, maybe sit down with him and make a scrap book of him and his mother before she passed away.
I know it may bring up allot of old memories and it may hurt at first but i think he needs to realize that we all have our time to go. Regretfully hers’ was sooner than expected and by such you need to cherish the memories he does have.
Life is far to short, if you think he couldn’t handle it than just make sure you let him know your going to be right by his side supporting him through out life. And make sure he knows that if anythings bothering him about it you’d be more than glad to sit and talk with him about it. As painful as it can be talking about it usually the best way to handle a lose of a loved one.
Life has gotten really hard…Dad died.. Bf Cheated
My dad passed away two weeks ago from cancer It was so unexpected and devasted me because he was my best friend and hero.
Then, 5 days after my dad died, my boyfriend of 1 year 4 months cheated on me I was completely shocked and numb, I had planned on spending the rest of my life with him.. he was my best friend.
Needless to say, I wanted to give him another chance because I love him, and truly believed he would want to change.. so I thought about things for a week and recently decided to give him another chance, despite my major trust issues with him.
Last night his sister calls me and was crying, saying that she cant cover for him anymore, and that he’s been hanging out with the girl he cheated with behind my back. =/
WOW. life’s been a roller coasted and i need some uplifting words.. something? Im so heartbroken and torn up inside. What do i do?
Ouch, first off let me apologize for the lost of your father. Cancer is such a cruel thing, hopefully we will be able to find a 100% correct way to cure it.
I understand how painful it would and can be to have your boyfriend of that long cheat on you. I know I would be devastated if my girlfriend of exactly the same amount of time did that to me. But happening right after your fathers passing is just unlucky.
You should be proud that you had the guts and heart to give your boyfriend a 2nd chance. You need to sit down and talk to him and get him to talk back to you about what you both want in a relationship. And you need to figure out if you both can achieve what you want in YOUR relationship.
Never know just because he is hanging out with the girl that he cheated with doesn’t mean he is cheating on you with her again.
But if he is you deserve better and he is clueless for giving up a girl who he loved and had spent a year and 4 months with. So you should just take it easy and don’t worry about it, you’ll find a better guy. I know it sounds massively cheesy but it’s true.
Best advice is to lean towards your family during these hard times it sounds like you and your sister are close so defiantly keep her close and try to help each other along because life is hard for the both of you at the momment.
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