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06
August

Help Please, Exboyfriend dumped me for no reason

I really like this guy, and we’ve been friends since like 5th grade. we went out for like a month, but he broke up with me for no apparent reason. i still like him a lot, and i think he still likes me a lot. but like when we were going out, we are both kinda shy so we don’t talk much in person, but talk a lot on aim. and he told me he loved me, but on aim… and doesn’t really seem like he did in person. so idk… help?

First off your only in 7th or 8th grade going by your age, so don’t worry about dating so much. Trust me, i used to think it was something that was important but the truth is, it really wasn’t. If you are wondering why he broke up with you, the best advice i can give you is to go talk to him. He’s the only person in the world who knows, and the sooner you sit down and ask him what was the reason the sooner you can attempt to fix whatever was the said “problem”.

About being shy, you can’t be afraid of being yourself and having fun. If he’s going to date you he’s going to do it because he likes you. So if your scared to mess up or say something wrong than you shouldn’t be dating him. So if you wanna date him just relax he wanted to date you for a reason and it was for being yourself.

08
July

Personally, I don’t think it’s love.

Sorry in advance about the longness.

So there’s a girl i know. She was in the year above me at school, but we never really spoke. But a few months ago, we got back in touch, and we really hit it off. Now we talk more or less all the time. I’m always there for her, no matter what (I’ve helped her through some pretty tough and stressful times)

Our relationship is kinda complicated. She knows that i really like her (More than a friend. I’d never usually risk a strong friendship for a relationship that might not work, but i really want to be with her), and as far as i know, she really likes me. This surely means i’ve done something right, because she doesn’t like guys very easily (She hates most of them. Past relationship problem caused this). At the moment, she’s thinking about whether she could risk our friendship for a relationship. As far as i know, she’s probably already thought about it, but not let me know yet. All i know is, i really want to be with her.

I’ve not been attached to a girl for a long time, and i’ve never been attached in THIS way before. It’s like all i think about is her. Every waking minute, i’ll be thinking about her. When i’m at work, i’ll be wondering what she’s doing or how she is. All i want to do is see her. I saw her on Sunday for most of the day. We had a great day out. As soon as she went home, i missed her like crazy.

Like i said, i don’t believe it’s love. But….i don’t know. I could be mistaken. Could anyone shed a little light?

Sorry about the essay. I just need someone who knows what they’re talking about.

Hey, no worries on the length honestly i think it wasn’t all that long. Anyways Obviously you care about her a lot. From the sounds of what you wrote your very smart, and i think you’ve already made the choice. You said it your self, your willing to risk your friendship for her. That says a lot, regardless of what you may think.

While you may really care about her, loves not found in one day or a few days. As a matter of fact i personally don’t believe love ever is fully grown and completely found. It evolves as the relationship does and when you find the right person it keeps changing and makes the relationship stronger.

You never know it could be what may become love, or it may be that you just care. Though if you never test it out to find out, will you ever know for sure? I highly doubt it and as you said it’s been a long time since you got attached to a girl so it may mean a lot more than your giving it credit.

Best advice, do what you feel is the best, if your heart and your mind agree it’s almost never wrong.