Guys are confusing, How can i understand them?

I spent the day with my ex-boyfriend on Saturday…

We just recently broke up, maybe a little less than two months ago. We dated for three years prior.

He is literally up and down. He says he still likes me, and loves me not in love with me anymore…obviously. But he wants to be single and doesn’t want to be tied down. That information would have been helpful 2 1/2 years ago.

I asked him if he was happier…he said no….and I asked him how he would feel if I ended up getting a boyfriend (which I’m not going to for a very long time unless it is him. but theoretically if I got a boyfriend) and his response was “Well, I wouldn’t like that… at all…” But he was the one to break up with me!

Then, for my birthday he got me an expensive gift. More than 300 dollars, that’s not the way you treat someone that you aren’t interested in.

But then on the other hand, he wants a “change in atmosphere and a change in lifestyle. ”
ugh…

Everything that he is saying and doing is very contradicting.

And I’m still really, really in love with him. Which is the worst part.

So. What in the world is he trying to do??? I don’t get it…

and I was wondering if any of you do…” - colour4, teenspot.com

Sounds like you’re in a very frustrating position that being said I can as a guy understand both his side as well as yours.

To put it simply; he’s not sure of what he wants. It sounds like you both had a vary successful three year relationship; I know from my own personal experience that is not an easy thing achieve. I also know from my own personal experience when you’re in a long-term relationship during your prime dating years you start to worry that you’ve missing something or someone. Most people seem to think that there’s no way to really know besides taking a break from their existing relationship. I think a lot people especially those who have seen or experienced a divorce first hand are extremely prone to this concern.

His actions from what you have described show passion for you still. What can you do? Well to be honest there’s not a whole lot you can do. As always I recommend sitting down and talking to him, and be very straightforward and blunt. You want to be clear with the conversation and explain that your confused by what he wants, and let him know you still care about him. Hopefully have a very direct person to person conversation can at least give you some direct insight into his goals and what he’s seeking for.

What you can’t do is stop your life for him, even if he tells you straight to your face he is interested in you still. That is unless he wants to restart the relationship; the last thing you want is to be toyed with. “If you love someone let them go, and if it’s meant to be they’ll find their way back”, if it’s meant to work out it well. You may just need to nudge it ahead a little.

Please keep me updated, – John Mathews!