Conflicted and Confused

So my boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago because he refused to believe that I was telling the truth about something I said to one of my friends. I was just casually talking to my friend (who is a guy) about work. My friend then joked about it to my boyfriend, twisting it, and making it sound like I was being a slut, and worst of all, my friend jokingly said that I had come onto him, which I DID NOT.

I’ve tried to speak to my boyfriend and explain the situation. He refused to believe me and called me a liar. We broke up.

He knows what happened now and said he’s sorry and wants to get back together with me, but I don’t know what to do.

It worries me that his immediate reaction was to think I lied to him when I have never lied to him about anything in the 7 months we were dating. Plus, while we were dating, he lied to me about not going to prom, but I saw the pictures of him and another girl on his facebook. To his credit though, my friend who goes to his school said my boyfriend had an awful time and felt really guilty…but he still lied to me about it.

I am so confused and conflicted. If anyone could help, it would be really appreciated.

Based on the way you still refer to him as your “boyfriend” and not your ex-boyfriend it seems to me that you still care about him. That being said it looks like your concerned about having those feelings for him. Which i honestly believe is a wise thing to do, and being conflicted and confused isn’t always bad especially when you take the time to sort out those emotions and concerns.

To start off he’s in the wrong far more then you are, it’s amazing to believe he didn’t sit down and take the time to talk with you in regrades to your “friends” comments. I would say that a healthily relationship the right thing would do is speak with each other. He seemingly had some major fears or thoughts about something being wrong with your guys’ relationship. Then add-on the fact he lied about prom, which even if he didn’t enjoy, he hide from you. He has some major problems.

My recommendation is if you truly still care about him and you think there’s something there, sit down and talk with him and explain you know about prom and if there’s any chance of you two working out he needs to come clean. You also should tell him that you both needs to work on trust and communication to hopefully avoid events like this. If he’s not stepping up to the plate and putting forth effort i recommend removing yourself from him, if he won’t change once there has to be a major event to make him change. I hope everything works out for the best for you and your ex-boyfriend, feel free to keep me up todate!